its pretty sad when....

[legwon]

pretty sad when all the in-laws are on your side.

my wife left me on tuesday. with a rather rude statement.

yah its been a bad day. candy left brian and i'm leaving you!

when i got up that morning i seen the sister-in-law sitting on our belcony with the mother-in-law(mil), she left her bf. he cheated on her. understandable. (mil moved in with wife and i)
then my wife calls me at work later that night and tells me this.
i was shocked.

but after going through the stages, i feel better now, especally after all the (former) in-laws, said there on my side.
she still hasnt returned yet, obviosly avoiding the situation. staying at a friend of hers place.

no explanation, no cause, no nothing. she just keeps saying, " b/c of the bull" i ask what bull to explain herself and she hums and ha's and keeps repeating herself.

i figure in either a week or month shell be back begging. but its too late now. its gonna really hurt my daughter, b/c shes really the only mother that shes knownin the past 5 yrs.shes 6 1/2. her real mother has full access to visits but never takes them. seen her 1 in past 2 1/2 years.

sorry to bore u all with this but i had to get it out somewhere.

[Phineus]

Bummer.

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Don't sweat it. Three thousand miles away, so I don't expect I/we can do much. But you're among friends here. Talk all you like. You never know when something can make a difference.

[NIR_PitBull]

My second wife talked me in to moving to Idaho to be by her family, about a year later I came home from work one day. The whole house was cleaned out. In the kitchen by the sink I find a picture of her and her sister and mother, O'mom waving her middle finger at me. LOL. We got back together for about 6 months, but I never got over or past that day. I know what you feel man. As the Duke would say, forward. The only place to go.

[legwon]

well it just got worse.

i found out she left me for a little skater punk on welfare, whos living with his bother and sister-in-law in a tiny apartment.

short form...

her, mil, my daughter and the niece went to this family party on sat.
she met this guy there, party was in his complex.
sunday, she was supposed to go and help the person that setup the party, cleanup. she dissappeared.

monday she called me and said she had a headache and didnt want to go anywhere, so she stayed the night a chicks place that she just met.

tuesday is the call from above.


friday, her 2 uncles b-day party. she didnt show. one of the uncles mention to me that there is a rumor going around about her having a new bf already.

saturday, i call her up and ask her if there is any truth to the rumor. she denies it.
later same day.
i call her again and get her mad. she admits to me that she does have a new bf. chicks husbands brother is the bf. the one unle has met this little loser, says hes 'bout 5'8", 100 lbs soaking wet.

was thinking bout this all night and had a little history chat with her mother. she has broken up with others for far less reasons than what shes pulled on me. but i think it is a control issue. she cant control me in the relationship so she doesnt like it. she figured i would conform. the guy b4 me was 5'4" 120lbs.
im 5' 10 , 170lbs and a bad attitude when it comes to people pushing me around.

another theory is money.i was making almost $20 canadianat my old job b4 layoffs. now im making $10.
but this fool is on social services. what the hell is she thinking

shes coming over tommarrow to sort out a few things and take some of her things out of here. her mother doesnt even want to be here when she comes, not that shes scared of her. shes scared of what she might do to her daughter.

[ellyty]

good man get it out and move on and keep on going you and your daughter can do better and deserve better than that ,love ya

[Grim2004]

Ya whatever the last guy says go on ith your life. Soon she'll coem back I guess.

[legwon]

lol grim. that wasnt a guy. that was my mom. but i understand what your saying and ty all for putting up with this breakout from mtm talk.

as for continueing, she came over on sunday. we talked in spurts. i was trying so hard not to screem and get mad. and she expects me not to have an attitude. yay right!!
then she dicides to peek on my mom, b/c my mom wrote her an email about how she felt about this. not long after she left the message on my moms machine did she call back and they .... actually my mom screemed at her for 45 min.. lol.
she didnt have much to say after that.

after she left she dicided to call some of ours friends and tell them what had happened.

and this is a quote..

maybe in 3 or 4 months me and lorne can start dating again, to start. but i dont want him to date in the meantime.

i laughed when i heard that.
as i said b4 its over. she called for the permanent break, and thats what shes gonna get.

the chick that shes staying with is already complaining about her. not cleaning, not working or welfare, not doing anything but bumming smokes off of everyone.
2 days after she left, she wanted to borrow some money from her sister. her sister asked how she was going to pay for it. she said she was going to pay it out of my check. i also laughed when i heard that. then just yesterday b4 she cam over she asked me to pawn some of MY cds for HER to have money!! i said

what?!! whats wrong with getting money from your bf? you can use his money now. u dont need mine!!

then she tryed to deny that it was her bf and just a guy that she was seeing.
when my mom was talking (screeming) at her, she tryed to deny it even more. saying that she wasnt even seeing him they just started talking at the party, and he HAPPENED to live with the chick that she dicided to stay with.

How Convinent!!!

while they were talking i over heard ann saying that me and her have been through hard times. i dam near *beep* myself on the couch i was laughing so hard. relationship-wise, yes weve had it rough. lifestyle, not a chance. she hasnt had to dig food out of dumpster just to eat 1 meal a week.
i have.

so anyhow to shorten this up in a hurry, after she left last night, i felt great and even today im feeling awesome.
i hope she gets whats coming to her , i really do. then MAYBE, she'll understand what hard times are.

[Phineus]

> ellyty

Hi Mom :-)


> pawn some cds

Um, so, like, what you got? lol



Glad to hear you've got a handle on it.

[HaC]

best wishes legwon.

[Grim2004]

That's your mom legwon.. lol. Man i made a mistake lol LMAO! ROFL!
I messed up big time.

[SLO_COPE]

Man, tough one leg, but glad things are looking up for ya bud.

Um, so, like, what you got? lol

- lolol geez Phin. Say...what do you have anyway? lol

Finally, I would be remiss in my social graces if I didn't say "Hi" to leg's Mom as well. By the way, are you a rumbler, Mom? If so look me up lol.

[ellyty]

This is legwon's mom "hello" back to you guys and thanks for the support you're giving my son He needs all he can get right now.

[legwon]

and yet another sad and pathitic day in the life of my ex....

she spent the night over here on wednesday b/c she got homesick, all night and all thursday morning i made her feel like garbage.

and in between i was asking wuestions about why and how.
i asked her why she had got a new bf even b4 she told me that we were over, and she said...

b/c he was there. to get over u.
i said ... so hes a rebound?
she said. yes.

today she denied it to her mother. her mother was standing right inside the balcony when she said it, so she heard what was said at that time.

last night at work i got a call from a good friend of mine. wanting me to go to karaoke on sunday with him, just to get out and breath. well, he camt keep from telling me secrets, so later he called me again and told me he set up a date for me! and he was going to pay for the entire night.
i very much appreciated this. so i said yes.

i told the ex-mil the next morning(friday), what had compired the night b4. and she was exstatic for me. she told her daughter(my ex) that i had a blind date on sunday. as soon as she found out she called and tried to get the details on where, when , and who.
then she tried to say that she was happy for me. but i could tell that she was mad as hell from the tone in her voice. lol. like i care what she thinks anymore. so i asked her why she was so interested in my date? she had a bf that didnt work, does drugs, has 2 kids that hes never seen, and sleeps all day long.


so later on in the night, i had to call her to see if and what she picked for school supplies for my daughter. from the money that i had given her. she freeked on me for calling. saying that shes sick and tired(like she has been 1-3 times a week for the last 4 yrs). i said... maybe if u quit (insert word) him, u would get some sleep. and then u might be able to bet up in the mornings and go job hunting like u said u were going to for the last 3 1/2 years.


dont think of me as a meen person, im not. the way i grew up is... if u screw me, u get screwed back twice as hard.
and thats what she tried to do, by kicking me and my daughter out. then her world turned upside down. im still here, shes living (literally) in a closet.

both me and her mother could tell that she is choked that i have a date and all she had is a drug addict, skipout father, wanna-be for a bf.

pretty well end of story. ill keep yall updated on the really good stuff.. lol.


as for me.. from thurday morning till now( friday night), ive been feeling dam good. i think i got it mostly out of my system now, and i pray that it doesnt come back.

[legwon]

well here comes the breakdown.

i told my daughter not 4hrs ago that mom doesnt love daddy anymore, and that shes moving out.

as soon as i finished saying it we both bust out crying. i really dont want to hurt my daughter but she has got to find out b4 long, and b4 she figures it out on her own.

i know what its like when your parents split and your old enough to know whats going on. and i didnt want her to go through the same thing. but its come to that.

ann(my ex) is really the only MOTHER that sam(my daughter) has ever known. true she isnt anns biological daughter, but she loves her just the same. ann has been in sams life since she was 1 1/2.

sams real mom SAYS she wants to be in her life but then does nothing about it. same thing with her other 3 kids. also with there father.

i havnt stopped crying all night. it kills me to know what she is going through b/c i know what it feels like.

i talked to ann earlier about this and also stated to her that she has screwed up too dam much to even think about coming back. now or in 6-8 months. she didnt have anything to say.

sam is in the point in her life when she needs both parents accessable at all times. and ann is just saying that "it hurts to see her right now". tell me.... how does it hurt to see your daughter?

she has only seen her twice in the last 2 weeks, and one of those times she was brought to ann.

idk what else to add to this, my head is a big mess right now.
but as for my stand, ann's gone. even in my most vulerable point yet.

[Phineus]

Food should never be a replacement for, nor an escape from, the bad things in life. However, the quality time you can spend with your daughter while you prepare something she can help with will demonstrate the importance of your relationship with her as well as show that things needn't be so bad as they seem. The idea is that you have two choices. To wallow in your misery and continue to feel sorry for yourselves, or to move ahead and seek out the good things in your lives and the many things you have that are worth celebrating.


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It's just a suggestion. Not much of one, I agree. But like the old cliche says, the longest journey begins with but one small step.

[NIR_PitBull]

I just had to say that I think that is an AWeSOME AWeSOME idea Phin. Now thats wonderful advice for you and yours Legwon.

[legwon]

first thing, id like to say thx to everyone for putting up with my whinning, and for supporting me.

went on the date last night, went ok. nothing is gonna happen between us. shes a manic depresant . good lookin though . but the best we could do, b/c of my daughter, is friends. for now.

all i was hearing all night was this jamiacan ring tone from my phone. it was ann. trying to riun my night out. i just let her try.. lol.
the night, all in all, was pretty dam good. she likes me and i have an in to keep talking to her other than dates and such. maybe one day she'll break but im not holding my breath.

on another note, anyone know of a Rock Bar around here in vancouver? all i know of is the hip hop crap. i cant stand that stuff.

bout it for now... l8r

[Fila]

I'm too young to give advices so i just wanna post here to show my young support.

Well i can give advices but who'd believe me , lol

[ZOtm_BigDOGGe]

on another note, anyone know of a Rock Bar around here in vancouver?

http://www.google.com/search?q=%22rock+club%22+vancouver+-minerals+-geology+-gems

heh heh...You'll have to search around the geology sites to find the music clubs and bars....they're mixed together. I filtered out some...

[Guest]

lorne no worries bro your strong and not on welfare chicks dig guys wit <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=jobs&v=56">jobs</a> .. and as for cleo pffttt she ain't all that! hope she steals thecrackheads welfare check and runs!! live on bro...
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